Forbidden Erogenous Fruit9 things to know before trying anal sex for the 1st time

One of the sexual pleasures many people indulge in, but never speak about is anal sex.

For most, it is still a taboo, even though many people have tried some type of anal stimulation at some point or the other.

 

No matter the position taken on anal sex though, the indisputable fact remains that there is an erogenous zone in the anus of both males and females.

Now, if you want to give it a try, for curiosity or just to please your partner, there are some things you should note —call them tips if you like:

1. Foreplay is more than important. It’s imperative that you understand that anal sex is not the same as vaginal penetration. So you must have a lot of physical and mental preparation before starting any funny prodding. So you might need more foreplay than usual. This foreplay should include body massage of body and buttocks, fingering (exploring) the anal area and insertion of sex toys, starting with the smallest dildos or butt plugs. This will prepare the anus for that sensation of something going in, as opposed to going out.
2. Relax your mind and body. It is important to be sure that your body and mind is relaxed before the serious business of anal sex starts. The woman should try to relax the anal muscles by squeezing your buttock muscles, hold for a few minutes, and release.
3. You need a lot of lubrication. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not readily self-lubricate so lots of lubrication is important. Again, ensure that you use a water based lubricant to avoid internal injury.
4. Sex is communication, anal sex is EXTRA communication. If you must enjoy anal sex, especially for the first time, then you need to talk with your partner. This is more important for the woman. Speak if it hurt and say if you need some time to get in the mood. If you’re not comfortable, say it!
5. The woman should determine the pace. Anal sex can be quite painful so the woman should be in control, especially the first time. She should be the one to guide the penis into the anus. The pace and pressure should be her choice because the anus is very sensitive.
6. First time should be doggy-style. Because of the need to be careful and penetrate at the right angle, it is wise to start with the doggy-style on first attempt. It gives a less inhibited access to the anus and the woman can hold onto something for support.
7. Clean sex is equal to healthy sex. Keep yourself safe by cleaning your genitalia before starting. Wha’anda strongly advises the use of condoms. Also limit or avoid oral sex involving the anal region.
8. You can try the double if you like. You can maximise the pleasure of anal sex by stimulating the shared nerve endings between the walls of the vagina and the anus. It can be extremely pleasurable to stimulate the vagina same time as you penetrate the anus — a clean finger with short nails, a dildo or a vibrator can do the trick.
9. Never go from anal to vaginal sex without changing condoms. It is a grievous mistake to switch the penis from vagina to anus or the other way round unless you first change the condom or wash the penis. If you do that, you may transfer very dangerous bacteria that may lead to infections.

It must be noted at this point that you should not let yourself be pressured into anal sex.

Much as it is pleasurable, it is also painful, for women, and does not really offer more than vaginal sex — well, so it seems.